Hi reader,

In life, there are certain things that you wish, you would have known earlier. And at times, even when you know it beforehand, it is hard to accept or handle them. They keep coming, twisting the course of your life. But, they are important. They are like those rough patches of your journey, that give all the bumpy rides, and at times wake you up in your journey, but to experience the better to come. However, in another life, we always wish that we could handle them better, if in another world!

Here, I just wanna talk about some of those hard facts, we all have encountered or will encounter in life, which we may not like at the moment, but will have to accept.

Everyone uses you for their reasons, including you

All of our lives, we live thinking the people we live with, play with, work with, celebrate with, party with, travel with are the ones that care about us, love us. But that isn’t true. Not everyone is there just to care for you. As you grow older, you learn to know how that circle you have always been happy about, used you for their own desires. You start looking at things, that earlier you just kept ignoring. How people turn to you when they need you,

• you still remember who would have traveled from far to get help on some college project, but now hardly remembers the name, or 
• the one who turns to you to show off or celebrate their latest achievement while being completely lost when you were celebrating your success, or 
• the ones who always want to speak their heart out but never wish to listen to yours, or 
• the ones who want to do/eat/travel/visit as they wish but are never ready to agree of what you suggest, 
• and this list keeps growing!

The interesting fact is, we are also one of them. It becomes so normal, that we hardly ever notice. We ourselves talk to different people only when we need something. However, when we are on receiving end, we actually notice it.

Failures is as Constant, and necessary, as Winning

We all want to be successful, winning each of the battles we face in life. But is it possible? The answer is No. We cannot, even if we want to. We will have those moments, where we fail. It could be in academics, or sports, or love, or friendships, or marriage, or anywhere. But we do fail, even the smartest of minds, have failed at some point in life. 

This is how we grow, we learn from those failures, those mistakes that failed us in the very first place. We work on them, we study better, we practice better, we choose people wisely, we take chances smartly, we try not to make the same mistakes again, and that’s how we later on succeed, that’s how we win!

What if we never lose or fail, all these learnings and experiences, will we ever be able to have them? So next time you fail, consider yourself like an arrow dragged backwards by an archer on a bow, just to make you move forward, faster and stronger!

You can do 99 things for someone and all they’ll remember is the one thing you didn’t do.

This is something that we all know so well. You make 10 dishes for a dinner, and everyone will remember that one dish which got overcooked. You do 9 tasks well enough, but your boss will pick the 1 task you missed. You stayed with your friend in 9 situations, but they will remember that one moment, where you were not able to be with them or listen to them. 

We need to try to do the right thing every time, to perform at our best, because we never know which moment in our lives we’ll be judged on.

Chesley “Sully” Sullenberger

We have the best of both worlds (the good and the bad)

Recently, while commuting to the office by public transport (Delhi Metro), I lost my wallet in the morning. Funny thing, I wasn’t even aware that I lost it until the evening. Luckily it had little cash and credit/debit cards, which I blocked when I came to know about my wallet. Now, where could I have lost it, is something I guessed, but chances of getting it back were 0.001% or maybe lower, as the place I was guessing has more than 100,000 footfall every day, and losing something like a wallet at such a location and thinking of getting it back is close to never. However, here I was lucky (maybe have never been that lucky my whole life, lol). I went to the same place and asked the Station Control Room if they found it, and they had! Some noble person I am always thankful to must have picked it up and left with them. I found my wallet intact, without a penny lost. For such people,

They Give Me Faith Again. And I See The Good In Humanity In Them Every Day.

Marvel Eternals

Best Friends, lovers, forever – it’s all temporary, what’s permanent is YOU, Invest in Yourself!

At a certain time in life, when we realize how everyone is using us, how we sacrificing our happiness for others, how we amending our plans and vacations for others, and still no one feels better and keeps expecting more and more, and never ever grateful, we understand what’s most important in our lives, US. At that moment, all these words like Best Friends, Forever, Lovers, etc goes missing in our dictionary, as ironically they all are temporary. 

When your close circle, starts calling out your success just a stroke of mere luck. When your talent is judged and giggled about rather than appreciated and promoted, you start losing hope in people, but as we got both the best and the worse of worlds, what we can focus upon is us first. So invest in yourself, work harder, smarter, learn, grow, try new things in life, travel, even if you have to do it all alone. Trust me, it feels awesome making people jealous and envious!

Caring makes you weak. They think you care, and they’ll walk all over you.

Suits

To our future generations, these are just a few of the facts that you will experience and learn from. But there are some more facts that will always help you or have helped us all along. 

Making yourself happy again is the biggest comeback ever.

No matter what hardships occur, what challenges you face, what failures you see in life, but to make yourself happy, is your utmost responsibility, as no one will ever do it for you!

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Sometimes, we try too hard to understand ourselves… our thoughts, emotions, everything, while all we actually need to do is, Listen. Sit back, close your eyes, listen to your thoughts, yes it’s a storm inside. How about categorizing your thoughts into career, love, friendship, family, personal and then listening to them one by one. It’s like having a journey through your thoughts, and trust me, the storm settles, and it feels amazing.

I Wouldn’t Change A Single Thing About Who I Am.

You exist, only because of what you are. Do not change yourself for anyone. Making small changes in life for compatibility is fine, but changing your personality for anyone, that you have worked on your whole life isn’t. Take the stand, and always be who you are. Those who love you will stay. Those who don’t, won’t stay even if you change for them. Be You!

Cheers!
– Navneet