Hi reader,

You have read the topic, you know what I am going to talk about, still, you chose to come to this post and read. The point is clear, you also have made one or few mistakes in your life, that of the memory, at times eat you up, fills you with guilt. You wish to correct it, but you can’t as it is too late to save the ship from sinking in. The emotional pain is weighing upon your heart, and you just want some way to lighten that up so it doesn’t haunt up more in the future. This is why you are here, to find that *someway*. I just wanna say, that’s okay. To err is human. Everyone makes mistakes, and you, that little amount of people who think they have never done anything wrong or have never made mistake, then you are in deep trouble as you are not even aware of that act that you might have done wrong or still doing. You can not say, you have never made any mistake. So, it is okay to accept, as it is alright! Humans make mistakes. Period.

If you don’t know where you make your mistakes, that’s your worst mistake: not knowing where your mistakes are at.

MEEK MILL

A mistake is a mistake, but there isn’t just a single type of mistake. Yes, we humans are so interesting that we even have a variety of mistakes. Career mistakes, financial mistakes, relationship mistakes, friendship mistakes, health mistakes, situational mistakes, intentional/unintentional mistakes, and it keeps going! As of what I know, problems don’t occur on their own, it is these mistakes that we make at a certain point in time, that become the cause of the problems for the later part of our life. Now one will say if we just stop doing mistakes, won’t it be good for our life. No mistakes lead to no problems and no problems in life mean just as good as heaven, Right? NO! If we don’t make mistakes, if we don’t have problems in life, every one of us will have the same life. Why? 

We became who we are today of the decisions that we took in our past, and of the experiences we had due to those decisions. If we didn’t make any mistake, then each of us would have had made the correct decision, and ultimately everyone is successful with nearly the same experiences in life. Also, if there are no mistakes, that means no problems, and no problems mean no hard times. No hard times mean you would have never fought with yourself to get over those hard times, you would have never struggled. You would have never experienced the tiny sweet victories in those struggling hard times. You would have no experience at all. Would you like to have a life, with a lack of experience? And do you think, will it worth? So, problems are also good in life, and for them, you need to make mistakes too. And most importantly, learn from your mistakes.

A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.

ALBERT EINSTEIN

Though it is tough to categorize mistakes easily, we can say that there are broadly two kinds of mistakes. Knowingly and Unknowingly. For the latter one, unknowingly, one can hardly do anything. These are beyond our control. Just to mention as an example, sending an important meeting invite to the wrong email address. Sending a gift to the wrong address. Hitting someone up while pulling a jammed door. You get it right? These are not the mistakes made intentionally and are more of that happen accidentally. Accidents are not in our control, and the things that are not in our control should not be worried about. Though, what one can do is damage control. How? Just always have the courage to come up, and apologize for the mistakes made accidentally, and to assure that you will try to be more diligent. Sounds simple, but imagine at your office a critical file has been deleted or an incorrect email has been sent to all the customers. The manager is furious and asking who did it, can you step up and accept that you made the mistake accidentally? Yes, that courage you should have.

Unknowingly made mistakes are not mistakes and more of accidents, agreed. But mistakes which are made knowingly? Inappropriate behavior for family and friends; talking, giving false hope, being in touch with a person that you are going to friend-zone; setting someone up for an act they did not do; sleeping with someone you won’t marry; going back/talking to that one person that hurt you always; expecting someone who doesn’t trust you that they understand and care when you tell about your problems; hurting other people just because one person doesn’t like you to talk to them; making a big bet just because the world is betting on it; resigning from job to follow your passion just to follow the trend; the list is so big that the list can itself be a blog itself. But I hope you got my point. For these mistakes, made knowingly, even an apology is nothing but sin. If you are a ship, then these kind-of mistakes are more of an anchor to the ship. They will never let you move forward in life, and will always be with you as a burden. How to get off the anchor? Just cut/drop it off and move on. JUST STOP DOING IT!

Don’t be afraid to make a mistake. But make sure you don’t make the same mistake twice.

AKIO MORITA

Don’t be afraid to make a mistake. But make sure you don’t make the same mistake twice. Because if you do, knowingly or unknowingly, you are just stupid, and more of it is a crime, believe it or not.

Well yes, I know what you may be thinking, writing it all up here is a good pep talk and quite easy to do as if I never did any mistake. No that’s not true. Most of the mistakes I mentioned are the ones that I or my acquaintances/friends/colleagues have made in real. The only motive here is just to remind you of two things: 

1. It is OKAY to make mistakes.
2. It is NOT OKAY to make the same mistakes repeatedly.

Take care of your loved ones, and I will see you in the next one.

Cheers,
Navneet!