Hi reader,

Have you seen this movie, Meet Joe Black? If yes then you may remember this scene, and if not, there is a Billionaire father who has two daughters. It’s the father’s 65th Birthday eve, and Allison (the elder sister) is planning a big party with all the esteemed guests, renowned orchestra and fireworks while the father was not really interested in the eve, until the day comes due to various reasons. On seeing the preparations of grandeur celebration, he comes to Allison and says, “Oh dear, this has started to grow on me.”. They talk about how he hasn’t been that father to her than the one he had been to Susan (Younger daughter). His eyes light up whenever she comes into the room and brings up a big smile on his face. Allison says, “But regardless of everything, you didn’t let either of us want for anything. I felt loved and that’s all matters, never mind the favorites. You’ve been allowed to have one, point is, you’ve been mine.”

Right from the beginning, if we remember, there use to be some kid in your class, who was the favorite to the teachers. If I remember of my childhood days, out of those 30-40 kids, that one/two kid use to be the ones who would get some special treatment, like monitoring the class, or bringing some stuff from the almirah and getting a token to wander for a while in the school corridors, or who doesn’t get scolded for scoring less marks or for not doing the homework. 

If you think that I am here to roast only teachers, then here is another example. How about that one popular guy/girl in the class, to whom everyone wanted to befriend? The one with the most followers (no not the influencer-followers, but the real followers). And how can we forget the favorite artist, favorite singer, favorite actor/actress, movie, etc? All the other songs are good, but that single song, the favorite song, just hits differently, right? 

Every one of us has the favorites, and we all owe one. Be it in family, friends or colleagues, or maybe someone, younger or elder, in the same locale or far away, but we all have one. The one, whom when we meet, we start smiling even before speaking a word. The one that lights up our eyes like glittering stars. The one whose happiness makes us feel happy. Or if not the favorite person, then a favorite song or movie or book, just makes our day.

However, favorites not always bring happiness, especially when talking in relation to people. There is always a high chance, that the one who is your favorite, has someone else favorite. You are not the favorite to them. You talk to them, share everything with them, hoping that they are listening, understanding, and are totally with you, but they are not. They can be physically present with you but chatting (for example) alongside their favorite person. It hurts, yes it does. 

There are some people, who exist, just right there. Everyone who knows them looks at them, but they are not their favorites. Not saying that they are not loved or respected, but just that they are not favorites or a better term, priority, so just if they need help and they don’t say it, no one will understand it, or maybe doesn’t even care about it, as they keep existing. They just be there listening to the rants from their friends, families problems, fixing things and issues around, helping people, doesn’t matter what’s happening in their life, so it just looks normal always. No, they are not mad, they do it as the other people could be the “favorite” to them. Just think of yourself, ain’t you felt like that ever where you cared for someone and then felt ignored, not disrespected or hated, just unintentionally got ignored. 

Friend, you are not alone. We all feel like that with someone. This is something that can not be controlled by us. However, there is one beautiful saying:

Get what you love, Love what you get.

We may not be the favorite to our favorites, but it doesn’t mean we are favorite to none, agree? There must be people, who love to talk to you, who love to see your work, who will feel ecstatic if being asked about their opinion on something, whose eyes light up when they see you and start smiling. Maybe sometimes taking moment in our lives to look at who is being there for us, who looks at us as favorites, and spreading love and happiness with them, can make us happier and probably make our day.

How about now sending a simple “Hi” to someone who looks at you in those glittery eyes?

Take Care!
– Navneet