Hey reader,

Before I say anything else, here’s something for you:

“Girte hai shahsawar hi maidaan-e-jung me,
wo tifl kya girenge jo ghutno ke bal chale”

The translation says that those are the brave-hearted cavalryman (warrior on horseback) who fall in the battlefield, not the cowards (tifl) who fear and walk on their knees like slaves.

We are either those brave-hearted cavalryman or the coward-slaves in our life. Some of us are those who don’t let themselves down at any point of life, be it in career or relationship. They accept whatever hardship comes at front and sail through those trouble-waters. And then there are some of us who not even have faced any failures yet and still keep crying for the miniature incidents in daily life. I don’t think so there is any need to mention who is who.

There is no one in the world who doesn’t have seen failures in life or have been through hard times, whether it be financially, emotionally, socially, physically, psychologically or mentally. But those hardships, either make you a warrior, who takes a zillion wounds and still stands tall fearless in every phase of life with a slight smile on his face, or, a coward, who cries on his failures and cries even more if everything is going into his favour. A warrior looks for positives in the adversities while a coward looks for negatives in every blessing. Choice is ours!

Even cowards can endure hardship; only the brave can endure suspense.
Mignon McLaughlin 

My one friend, shared a beautiful story one day.

An entrepreneur who invested his everything – money, savings, property, life, everything into his dream business, failed badly. He failed in the sense that his whole family was going to be homeless on the very next day. He went to a local tea-shop and was just sitting like a loser. A local man came to him wearing some old traditional clothes like a common villager. The local man tried many times to initiate a conversation with the entrepreneur but he didn’t show any interest. Finally, he spoke and shared what he was going through . The local man asked what is he going to do now and he said he is either thinking to do suicide and get off to some far-off place. The local man asked him why not he makes a fresh start, when he has already lost everything and have nothing left to care about losing then why not a new kickstart? The entrepreneur said that it’s all a myth shared by all the successful people across the world that you just turn the things around after losing up everything.

He had a role-model of which he admired and wanted to become but now he feels that he also lies to the world about the story of success. The local man, somehow managed to influence him for a fresh start and when started to move, the entrepreneur asked his name, he was the same man of which he admired and he said “Don’t know about others, but I know how it feels to be in that situation you are, that’s why I never forget who I was and come out like this to keep reminding myself who I really am!”

There is no success without hardship.
 Sophocles

Friend, I know you are not totally fine. You are fighting a war inside yourself, against yourself and all you have is yourself. But, just remember, so is everybody. No one in this world is totally free from problems. Point is how big you make it. Everyone is facing emotional distress (especially when you are in 20s and single) and many are in financial troubles as dreams and expectations are high and the competition is rising every single day. But, as I said, you are fighting with yourself, not the world. This fight is something which will make you better than yesterday everyday. All you need is to be like a warrior not a coward.

In one of my previous blogs, I shared about the importance of patience. I would talk about it again. When you are fresh graduates, and either searching jobs or have started a job, you are full of dreams and expectations. You start making unrealistic aims to make you feel with high expectancies and aims. But on the deadlines, you fail to deliver. It’s good to be optimistic, but being realistic is more sensible. It’s totally fine if you make short term small targets and deliver rather than making big fancy aims and fail to deliver even one of them. Be patient, you can’t become Sachin Tendulkar and score a 100 centuries in a day.

The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.
Arnold H. Glasow

I know people, who have switched jobs just to have more money. Well, it’s nothing really bad about it, unless and until they feel that money can give them satisfaction. And if they think that money can give satisfaction and happiness in life, then they have never experienced the beauty in life.

I have seen some people who fear hardships too, everyone knows such people or have met them. We all fear from something in life and we don’t want hardships to be long and have more sufferings in life, but they come. It’s very interesting to know that life is very easy as all we have to do is only one thing, Breathe.

Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.
Oprah Winfrey