Hey reader,
It’s 19th of April, and before anything else, thanks everyone for being connected, following blog, commenting their views, making the communication possible in duplex manner. So, a big thanks to every one, your responses are very important and keep them flowing in.
I always say, try something new. If you have tried it, you know, trying something new every other day is very refreshing and entertaining. From my last blog, I tried many new things, jumping on trampoline, spending time and having lunch with a person whose first language is not same as mine, going into a cafe alone, and this one, writing blog from this cafe. That’s all have been very much great.
“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we are curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”
Walt Disney
Trying new things is good, but expecting to get successful in each of them is not at all good. We all are humans. We are made to make mistakes, and hence, we are bound to fail sometimes. So that’s what I will be talking about in this blog, Failures.
“I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Thomas A. Edison
Friend, apart from being humans, we all have one another thing common, failure. We all have failed sometimes, be it in taking the first step in the childhood or writing the first word, or even choosing the best order in a cafe :wink:. After some brainstorming sessions with the amazing person and the best adviser, I figured out few things into which we can divide failures. So I will try talking about each of them. The categories are: Failure in Career, Failure in Friendship, Failure in Achieving Goals and last but the most important, Failure in Self Introspection.
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, only this time more wisely.“
Henry Ford
What will you say to a kid who failed in an exam in 3rd Standard? That
you can’t do anything now in your life, or,
Cheer up kid, that’s just a single exam, you gonna rock in the rest of the exams you going to have? The same applies to you, when you failed to score good in Board Exams, when you failed to score good for your entrance exams, when you failed to complete graduation with distinction, or, when you failed to get a job. That’s just a single instance where you need to just learn and move on to try the same with a different approach. Don’t let the failure climb upon your mind that you are not even able to recognise bigger and better opportunities in your life. So, just take a deep breath, 3 times, accept that you have failed this time. Take a sheet of paper, dig deeper in your mind that where have you made mistake and just pen it down, doesn’t matter if they are too many, as it will give you even more areas of interest to improve, and just knock them down one by one.
“Broken friendship can become either a full stop or a comma in your life, the choice is yours to make it either of the two.“
Anonymous
Fake friends believe in rumours, Real friends believe in you. It is your job to find the real ones for you. There’s a saying, “To get some, you have to give some!” The same applies here as well, to develop a strong bond and have someone believe in you, you have to believe on others. Expecting that this will always succeed, won’t help. You will fail. You will get people in your life where you believe on someone and they break your trust. There’s nothing that hurts more than a friend betraying you. BUT, this doesn’t means that it is the end. It DOESN’T mean that every person in the world will be the same. You have got your lesson and you have to trust again. You have to believe again. And, you will find someone again.
“In life we never lose friends, we only learn who the true ones are.”
Unknown
Betrayed by a friend or it’s the relationship that failed, there’s one thing common. You LEARN. You learn from your mistakes. There is one quote which I found and would love to share. In fact, I would say that you write it down somewhere where you get an eye on it everyday.
“I’m stronger because I had to be. I’m smarter because of my mistakes. I’m happier because of the sadness I’ve known. Now I’m wiser because I’ve learned.”
We live in a society, where the success is measured in the form of property, cars and bank balance. The day, success gets measured by the amount of happiness, joy and satisfaction, a majority of the world will be below poverty line. But as per current scenario, to be successful, we aim for the things that are mere materials and even if you attain them, you won’t be satisfied.
In the quest to fulfil and achieve our materialistic goals, we do get failed. A person might have bought the car, but couldn’t manage to payback the EMIs. So is for the own house and for the bank balance. In my view, these are not the failures! These are the results of tortured mind being harassed by the society everyday.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t own a car, you can call up a taxi. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have own house, you can take houses on lease and switch to new location whenever you want to. It doesn’t matter you don’t have 6-7 digits bank balance, if you are satisfied with your life.
“Real success is not, like, materialistic. It’s being where you want to be when you want to be; just living your life how you feel; having an ultimate goal and being able to accomplish it.”
Lindsey Wixson
But now, something I feel that is a real failure and of which you should be concerned is, Failure in Self Introspection or Failure in knowing yourself. This is what something which will always keep you upset, make you feel low. But, the resolution is very simple. You just have to stop thinking, stop holding yourself to try out things, stop saying No to yourself. Just start enjoying the every moment of your life. Make your list, longer than anyone could expect and just start working on them. If you are following here from the first blog, you might remember, what the first task was, Know Yourself. DO IT.
“Again the important point to remember is that you should keep asking yourself questions. Do not make statements. Ask questions to yourself. The mind hates that.”
Robert Adams
You all have read or heard this some where : FAIL – First Attempt In Learning. So why worry of it? Why scare from learning? Your task till the next blog will be, think about the biggest failure you have faced in life. Think about where you were wrong and did the mistake. What you learned from it. And imagine, if you have not failed then, how would have you learnt that lesson! Think about it!
And, I would really love it if you share your views down here in comments, how some failure transformed your life, what failures mean to you, what is your understanding when you face a failure in your life.
“Failure is the key to success; each mistake teaches us something.”
Morihei Ueshiba
VARTAMANAH 
What’s your thought about it?