Hey reader,
It’s 14th of March, and sometimes the time seems to run like sand in the fist, harder you try to hold, faster it slides down. But whatever happens, Life’s always beautiful. No matter how many hardships come, but there will always be some moments, you will smile, sometimes for yourself and sometimes for your loved ones.
“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached.”
Simone Weil
We meet people, get to know about each other, exchange numbers, becomes friends on social media and gets into talking. From one text in a day to one text in an hour, we don’t get to know when do we get attached unknowingly and unexpectedly. Let me say one thing that I’ve figured out in all this time. Attachments are tough. Sometimes even harder then the relationships. May be that’s why it’s said, Attachments hurt more than love.
I get confused sometimes, like why are there so many things just to confuse. There is attachment, then there is infatuation, there is friendship and there are relationships. I am a thousand times sure most of us don’t understand these and the differences. Things are not complicate unless we make them.
We all have went through one phase. The phase where we get attached to someone in either a friendly way or emotional way or even in romantic way. But this attachment has always been one sided. We share things, tiny or big we share them all. Anything happens, we know where to go to. And then the evil comes, Expectations. The biggest difference between love and attachment is expectations. When we get attached to someone, we expect something from them. And I know many people won’t agree with it, but you know what, just ask yourself, haven’t you expected a reply when you tell the tiniest things to them?
“Expectation is the mother of all frustration.”
Antonio Banderas
There is no attachment without expectations. Sometimes they are small, sometimes big. We expect people to understand, react and sometimes act. It’s not like they are bad to have. They come true few times but thinking of cent percent accuracy is something unrealistic. It’s not necessary that everything happens and all the things fall in place like we have expected them to be. I know it’s frustrating. But guess what, that’s life. It’s always beautiful, no matter expectations are met or not. There’s always a way to succeed. And as it is the day when the one of the true gem has passed away, so sharing one of his many quotes that sums up everything:
“However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do, and succeed at. It matters that you don’t just give up.”
Stephan Hawkings
It’s really sad when we see the people we use to talk every hour, now don’t get time and reply days later. It’s not about you or them, it’s just about the priority. These do change, not only their but our as well and it’s natural. As I always say, nothing is permanent, everything changes. No one is never so busy, it’s just a matter of priority. Sooner you get it, better you have it.
Now, that’s much of the talking about what is it, but how do we avoid it? Well that’s natural, we have no control over it. Or if there is, I am not aware about it and will be happy if someone would like to share it down in comments. My suggestion is, which I got to learn lately, never get personal with anyone so early. Take your time in knowing people. Have expectations, but never-ever think of them happening as you thought.
There are few things, attaching to whom will never hurt, yes you read it right. So, the task is try to attach with these things. First, morning breeze, wake up early and go for a walk. Connect with that breeze. This attachment will always help you start your day nicely. Second, if you live near beach, go for a walk at beach frequently. Third, pets, attaching to an animal is one of the amazing experience you can have. Well these are just few examples. Long story short, connect and attach with nature, ecosystem, sky and last but most importantly attach with your-own-self.
“Renew, release, let go. Yesterday’s gone. There’s nothing you can do to bring it back. You can’t “should’ve” done something. You can only DO something. Renew yourself. Release that attachment. Today is the new day.”
Steve Maraboli
VARTAMANAH 
What’s your thought about it?